Why do we second guess if we deserve to get IVF?

How many years of trying to conceive naturally would validate getting IVF? What fertility diagnoses make IVF justified? Why do we pile on the guilt when it comes to IVF? We second guess if we deserve this procedure: if we have other kids, we feel like we are being selfish for wanting more, or we feel guilty for using ART because it isn’t the “traditional way” of starting a family. Family members say things like “why isn’t she happy with her one healthy son? ” or “why can’t they leave it in God’s hands, and if it’s meant to be, it will be.” But why does someone else deserve to have five kids just because it is easy for them? Why can’t we celebrate the advances of science and feel confident and deserving of our available options? That is if we are lucky enough to live in a state where insurance covers it, fortunate enough to afford to use ART (assisted reproductive technology), or fortunate enough that our fertility diagnosis is within the realm to try IVF or other ART).

You deserve to have the family you always wanted. You deserve to try whatever means you feel necessary to create your dream family. Don’t let outside judgments affect your decision to do IVF or any other ART procedures to help with starting your family. The bottom line is you deserve to have the family you always wanted. You decide what is right for you.

Have you been thinking of exploring ART? Has somebody made an insensitive comment to you about your fertility journey? Let’s break through the taboo of ART procedures by standing with conviction. Please share your thoughts below; let’s open up the discussion.